Good morning, my lovely readers! Today I come to you as part of the blog tour for Shelley Black’s beautiful book, Savoring Single! I truly enjoyed reading this unique book which explores the topic of the season of singleness, and I have my personal review of it below!
Plus a giveaway!
But first, I want to share some of my own thoughts on “singleness”, being in a “season of waiting”, and all such things.
For those of us who have a heart’s longing to be married, the topic of singleness can be a hard one. We don’t necessarily want to read books and listen to sermons on singleness, as they often force us to feel like single is all of who we are. We tire of hearing all the questions of: “So … are you dating anyone yet?” and the onslaught of well-meaning but counter-productive comments and advice.
It can be hurtful. Frustrating. Even embarrassing. It can make us feel “behind” in life. Lacking. Missing something. Not complete. Not part of something. Not belonging. Or it just makes the painful “wait” even more painful, because we truly have a God-given desire for marriage and a family of our own.
I had a thought as I pondered this one day. You know, perhaps we’re going about it all wrong when we call ourselves “single” as if our relationship status defines who we are. And “in a season of waiting” as if once we get married, we’ll have arrived.
I don’t like “single” to define me, because it often is associated with negativity. The truth is, my identity is child of the King. Adopted daughter of the perfect Father. Beloved of my Savior, Jesus Christ. Bride of the Lamb.
Beautifully made by the Creator. Chosen by the one true God. Accepted by the Holy One, by grace through faith.
Loved. Wanted. Accepted. Beautiful. Chosen. Belonging. Complete. Secure.
I am not married, but “single” and “still waiting” doesn’t/shouldn’t define who I am. I shouldn’t feel looked down upon, not enough, or not part of something – not having yet “arrived”. I am part of God’s eternal family. I have a purpose and a beautiful life right now. I would love to be married someday, but that doesn’t mean that right now I’m lacking or my life is on hold.
…Which brings me to the next point.
Why always call singleness a “season of waiting”? Isn’t almost every part of life a season of waiting? Waiting to graduate high school. Waiting to find that community of believers to be a part of. Waiting to find the one your soul loves. Waiting to get your college education and start your career. Waiting for physical or emotional healing. Waiting to develop your God-given mission. Waiting to have the children you long for.
We’re always waiting, and learning, and developing, and growing, and seeking, and working toward something.
It’s not like once you meet the man God has for you and get married … well, the wait is over! The season of … completeness and happily ever after has come!
No. There’ll be more seasons of waiting. And trusting. Having faith and leaning on God when you can’t figure out how the future’s going to be and how everything is going to work out. Seasons of slowly making progress and working toward healthy and good and God-given goals and dreams.
And this is not a bad thing! As long as we are inviting God into this and thriving joyfully in Him, no matter what we are waiting for!
Completeness, wholeness, comes when the Bride is united with her eternal Bridegroom, Jesus Christ. When there is a new heaven and new earth. Then, the season of waiting will finally be over.
That all being said, I suppose my point is, don’t look at your “unmarried years” as such a season of waiting.
Of course, there’s nothing wrong with studying and hoping and preparing to be a wife, mother, etc.
But, there are all sorts of seasons in your life, and one is not necessarily a “step up” from the other. Each can be beautiful and meaningful and powerful, if you let it be. God can do lovely, amazing things in each season. Preparing you, and wooing you, and growing you, and delighting in you, and using you in His incredible plan, and taking care of you, and making you more like Him. He is by your side in every season; and in every season, our first and deep desire should be to grow closer to Him – to glorify His name and seek first His kingdom! ❤
So thrive in Him today, wherever you are, beautiful reader.
Read Some More of My Posts on Singleness, Relationships & Marriage:
Finding Joy in the Lover of My Soul
Practicing Purity & Pursuing Righteousness in Romantic Relationships
Boys … Can We Just Be Friends?
Thoughts on Dating and Marriage
My Personal Review ~ 5 stars ~
Title: Savoring Single
Author: Shelley Black
Genre: Christian Living
Audience: Older Teen & Adult Women
Published: December 7th, 2017
A wonderfully encouraging read! I’m truly grateful that I was given the chance to read and review Savoring Single by Shelley Black. To be honest, it wasn’t the kind of book I’d usually find myself dying to read, but when I was contacted about reviewing it, the simply lovely cover enticed me. And I was curious to know if a book like this could actually help me in my season of life.
“Being single has its difficulties and challenges and hard days, but so does every other season of life.” (Savoring Single by Shelley Black)
I was somewhat surprised, and delighted, to find that it did! I think some readers have referred to Savoring Single as “refreshing”, and I so agree! It encouraged me to be okay with me and thrive in life right now. It gave me hope for the future. It did not mock my desire to be married, but sweetly reminded me that marriage is not the goal and God can do beautiful and wonderful things in my life in this moment!
“We need to be loved, valued, treasured and pursued. We need to know that we are beautiful. But we need it most from Him. Knowing God and walking in relationship with Him will answer every single one of these desires of your heart.” (Savoring Single by Shelley Black)
Each chapter started with a prayer. Shelley Black shared her personal experiences and stories; her struggles and growth. There were lots of Scripture verses and references throughout.
She talked about having an intimate relationship with God, going on adventures, pursuing your passions, friendship, idols, boundaries, and sexuality. One of the main themes of the book was God’s adoration of you and His plan that you should have a close, personal, and fulfilling relationship with Him. You are His dearly loved daughter! And though He may very well have marriage and a man in His plans for you, He longs for you to know His perfect love for you and His place as your eternal Bridegroom. The truth is, we won’t be satisfied and filled until we let Him fill us.
“Love according to the Word of God begins first in relationship with God. Then it flows through us and into others.” (Savoring Single by Shelley Black)
Shelley Black has a lot of practical and heartfelt wisdom and ideas, I feel. It was just … encouraging! Reviving. Fun. Thoughtful. Deep. Sweet. I enjoyed returning to the pages of Savoring Single each day.
“Sometimes we can ask for some crazy things that a loving Father just knows better than to give us.” (Savoring Single by Shelley Black)
Not to say I agreed with everything or found everything to be absolutely helpful. I can’t say that about any Christian Living book I’ve read! The chapter in Savoring Single on finances didn’t resound with me as much as the rest of the book, but that’s okay. It still had some helpful points. Shelley Black definitely has a different personality than me. She’s a go-getter, all about big adventures, and seems passionate about having lots of money to use for God’s kingdom. I suspect my story’s meant to play out a little differently, but I can appreciate her aspirations and zeal, and the beauty of her own powerful, unique story!
“This means we choose how He would choose, even if it costs us.” (Savoring Single by Shelley Black)
Overall, Savoring Single was a fabulous book. I highly recommend to women in the season of singleness. It was inspiring and hopeful. And I just want to share it with any sisters who have struggled like I have, so perhaps they can understand more fully that waiting on God’s timing for marriage is beautiful. And learn to thrive in life right now. Know that they are not lost or behind in the journey. And there is hope and passion and joy. And they are completely loved, here and now. There is so much beauty in store for you in this season, and every season! Love being right where God has you.
“Single now or single forever God is good and the more our perspective aligns with His, the more we will live this life fully no matter our status.” (Savoring Single by Shelley Black)
Shelley Black truly is a beautiful soul and an inspiration to me. Can’t wait to share this book!
In the end of Savoring Single, it encourages you to do a study on love, and there is a list of all the Bible verses talking about love. I look forward to spending some time pondering true love! ^_^
I received a copy of Savoring Single from the author in exchange for my honest review.
“Singleness. Dating. Marriage. Kids. Careers. Hobbies. Memories. Dreams. Each flow out of that one purpose to know God! Being single and not knowing Christ is empty. Being married and not knowing Christ is empty. Having kids without knowing God is still empty. Careers and hobbies without a relationship with God is still empty.” (Savoring Single by Shelley Black)
About The Author
Shelley Black has journeyed through being single longer than she expected and has since found joy, hope and purpose from a once begrudged season. She now challenges the status quo of what it means to be single as a modern-day Christian female, with a passion to infuse hope and restore joy to every single-girl heart. Shelley is a loving momma to her pup Lucy, is one proud “T” to six nieces and nephews and serves her local church in North Mississippi as the worship leader. Find her at SavoringSingle.com and across social media at SavoringSingle.
Blog Tour Schedule
Feb 1st ~ Original Post by Abby – www.worthmorethangoldsite.wordpress.com
PARTY – Live Chat on Instagram at 7 EST.
Feb 2nd ~ Original Post by Jessica – jessicasummeroverstreet.com
Feb 3rd ~ Spotlight post and Giveaway – madigrace.org
Feb 4th ~ Original post from Shelley – http://www.southkakalakigirl.com/the-blog
Feb 5th ~ Book Review by Isabella – www.jesusisworthitall.weebly.com
Feb 6th ~ Original post from Shelley – http://www.thedifferentgirl.com
Feb 7th ~ Original post from Amanda – https://blogsbychristianwomen.com
Feb 8th ~ Book Review and Author Interview – www.purelyunorthodox.com
Feb 9th ~ Spotlight Post & Giveaway – https://www.sylviacney.com
Feb 10th ~ Original Post by Sarah Beth – www.lovesarahbethblog.wordpress.com
Feb 10th ~ Original Post by Kaityn – www.theshoe19.blogspot.com
Feb 11th ~ Original Post & Book Giveaway www.delightinginhimblog.wordpress.com
Feb 12th ~ Book Review and Original Post from Shelley – amongthereads.net
Feb 13th ~ Original Post by Kara and Giveaway – savedbygrace7.blogspot.com
Feb 14th ~ Author Interview – www.writingsfromagodgirl.wordpress.com
Feb 15th ~ Book Review from Heidi – www.thecaffeinatedbibliophile.com
PARTY – Author Interview on Google+/YouTube at 7 EST.
Feb 16th ~ Original Post from Katie – www.kjsonline.wordpress.com
Feb 17th ~ Original Post by Moriah – growthbygrace.wordpress.com
Feb 18th ~ Book Review, Author Interview and Giveaway – https://ohsopriceless.wixsite.com/blog
Victoria – Spotlight – https://rufflesandgrace.com
Feb 19th ~ Original post by Shelley – uniquelymarieblog.wordpress.com
Feb 20th ~ Book Review – youaresaltandlightblog.wordpress.com
Feb 21st ~ Book Review – ordinarygirlextraordinaryfather.blogspot.com
Feb 22nd ~ Book Review – https://themostlytrueadventuresofemily.wordpress.com/
Feb 23rd ~ Original Post by Lydia – spoonfulofsurprises.wordpress.com
Feb 24th ~ Original Post by Mandie – calledtoliveradically.blogspot.ca
Feb 25th ~ Spotlight post and Giveaway – http://livkfisher.blogspot.com/
Feb 26th ~ Book Review – Ainsleyhope.wordpress.com
Feb 27th ~ Guest post from Shelley and Giveaway – http://englishmysteriesblog.blogspot.com/
Feb 28th ~ Original post by Shantelle, Book Review and Giveaway – https://ladygracesite.wordpress.com/
March 1st ~ Original Post by Chloe – Sweetnesswithchristweb.wordpress.com
March 2nd ~ Spotlight Post and Giveaway – www.livylynnblog.com